Hello, dear Rami! I always read your column with interest and decided to ask you for a piece of advice. I graduated from the University in USSR with a robotic systems engineer certificate. After the graduation I came to Israel. I did not work a great while; I stayed home and cared for the children. Now they go to school, and I work at a company servicing elderly people. I am eager to learn, but I have no idea what profession to choose. I’ve been always fond of mathematics (all exact sciences, physics for example).

I wanted to study at a university in order to teach this subject at school later, but my husband strongly objects to this idea. He says that I would waste the money spent on studies, that I would not be able to work with children and also that I would not get employed in our town. Except of mathematics, I’m very keen on astrology. Should I advance in this area? What else could you advise me? There is one more question I am worried about: my husband and I are constantly quarreling, may be we do not fit each other? Or should we change anything in our relationship? Thank you very much for your help.

With regards, Bella.

Dear Bella! The teaching profession suits you quite well, as well as exact sciences, though not in analytical area. Studying astrology is favorable for everyone, especially if one has a craving for it. It’s never late to study, since when studying the person is progressing. This is my general advice, and I express it in this special way, because your principal karmic purpose is to become a good mother and wife. Try to spend more time with your children creating a loving atmosphere all around.

Hello, Rami! I read your column in “Sharm” journal with great pleasure. I immigrated to Israel in 1992. I study and work all the time and seem to have everything in my life. I have wonderful parents who always support me. I have good time-proved friends. I got married at the age of 21, and as it seemed to me at that time, my husband was a smart and self-dependent man. My former husband is 14 years older than me. I thought he would always love me, but our marriage broke up one year later. Both of us realized that we were absolutely different people with different aims and views of a family life.

I left my husband when my little daughter was 3 months old. Since then my daughter and I have been living with my parents for 6 years already. During these years I got acquainted with many people and heard a fair amount of stories about unhappy marriages. I began to fear to make a mistake by getting married for the second time. I am not a girl already and I understand what it means to be responsible for the other person. I do not manage to meet a kindred spirit. Very often, on the first date I’m acting like a psychotherapist. I’m listening to my date very attentively trying to find a way out of the situation together with the “patient”. As you understand, this first meeting and conversation become the last ones. For all these years I haven’t met a single man who would be interested in my feelings.

I think I‘m naturally a strong person, and when people get acquainted with me, they just feel it and unconsciously understand that it will not be so easy to cohabit with a person like me. They see that I’m rather severe to myself and people around me. Lately, I’ve had a feeling that I make no headway. Nothing changes, though I think I am not only destined for career development. I want to meet a man who will understand me and will be my friend in life, who will love me and not my achievements, my intellect, my affinity, and to whom I will want to give in return all I have – my soul. Will I meet such a man? Is it real? Thank you in advance for your reply. I wish you and you column all the best.

Oksana

Dear Oksana!

Unfortunately, you did not supply me with your exact details, thus it will not be possible to see future events in your life. What you have to understand is that to meet a lovable and dear person, the one who you can call your “second half” is a blessing, especially for people of Western culture which dictates a full indulgence towards one’s wishes, and most of decisions are made from the point of view of a false ego. In the modern Western society the model “I win – you lose” prevails and the concept of tolerance practically does not exist. Therefore, it’s no wonder that people with the closed House of Marriage in their charts come into this world.

It is very important for you to understand it, because you have to learn to live happily alone. Also try to understand that it is impossible to make any terms or demands to love, since it is a serious violation of the Divine laws which may lead to a complete failure in private and spiritual life. That is, you cannot say: I will only love the man having these definite qualities and possessing of this exact sum of money on the bank account. The Universe might give you such a man but your relationships will be deprived of unconditional love and, consequently, of happiness.

Good day, Ramie, I ask you to please answer my letter, I need your help. My biggest problem is that I am not living in harmony with myself, with my soul, and, consequently with the world. I am a very spiritual, but closed person; it is as if I live in my own separate realm, unadjusted to the practical reality. Because of this are all my difficulties: inability to join a new company, I experience difficulties in contacting other people. I am very emotionally poor and cold, but inside- vulnerable and open to injury. Although from the outside sometimes I am even rude. Maybe it is a defense? I have an intensified sense of self-sacrifice, compassion and mercy. But the inability to find internal harmony oppresses me very much. Maybe it is because I did not realize myself in life? I toss about, wanting to try many things, but where is the way destined for me by fate? Please, tell me how I can find myself, how to become more open and free, more confident? How should I work at self-improvement? I suffer very much.

And another question: my husband and I do not fit each other- he is a very materialistic person, and I am- a very spiritual, I feel a lack of spirituality. What awaits me in my marriage? For I feel that he is not the one, who destined to me. Will I marry for the second time? How should I develop me spiritual world, to cleanse my karma? How to find myself in life? Which profession to choose? I beg you please help me! Thank you a lot for this column and for helping others.

With respect, E.

Hello dear E.! Everything you describe is seen very clearly in your chart: certain psychological crisis, and problems in private life. This is shown be the retrograde lord of the house of personality, which gives diffidence and split personality. Also the Moon, which just entered into the constellation of Danishtaha (it grants a person such qualities as generosity, compassion, ambition, and at the same time mistrustfulness and rudeness). There are also many other placements, which we will not discuss now. And it all is increased by the passing period of Rahu. But despite all the complicatedness of your inner problems, I am quite optimistic about you.

First of all there is nothing tragic- no invalidity, nor death of children, etc. secondly, one cannot overlook your level of spirituality and great desire to change. From my experience, after one or one and a half years, such a person can change completely and begin to live happily. For this end, you should first of all get rid of rudeness, for it will not bring any good, except for loosing friends, and for a sudden worsening of reputation.